Comments on: China trips http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/ A "good enough" mom muses about alpha moms, adoption, computers, the State Of The World, Internet quirkiness, and the Kosmik All Wed, 17 Mar 2010 07:50:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Mei-Ling http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106633 Mei-Ling Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:11:31 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106633 Mary, the 8 and ) (typed together) create the sunglasses smiley face. =P Mary, the 8 and ) (typed together) create the sunglasses smiley face. =P

]]> By: Mei-Ling http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106427 Mei-Ling Tue, 24 Nov 2009 04:03:55 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106427 Your post about your daughter's Dear Diary entry (and your response & thoughts) had me thinking you were never planning on a trip at all... due to the "maybe" part of it. =P I find this post very interesting, because that's not actually what you meant. Your post about your daughter’s Dear Diary entry (and your response & thoughts) had me thinking you were never planning on a trip at all… due to the “maybe” part of it. =P

I find this post very interesting, because that’s not actually what you meant.

]]> By: Mary http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106343 Mary Sun, 22 Nov 2009 14:57:22 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106343 as an aside I just saw my comment posted and have no idea why there is an emotacon in it -- supposed to say 10 and 8 not 10 and smiley face. as an aside I just saw my comment posted and have no idea why there is an emotacon in it — supposed to say 10 and 8 not 10 and smiley face.

]]> By: Mary http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106342 Mary Sun, 22 Nov 2009 14:55:53 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106342 We plan to take our internationally adopted children to their home country as well. In an ideal world we will go at least twice - once when they are young (probably 10 and 8) when they can just soak up the culture and make memories of places and again when they are teens and they can if they chose elect to open their files and search for their birth families. Even if we can't manage the second trip and they go by themselves at a later date, I want them to have memories of thier home country to rely on they make what would be an emotionally laden journey to find their birthfamilies (if they chose to. The journey to find their birthparents must be theirs while we can do whatever they want to help (or not as they elect) I want to do what we can and I hope that by having been in the country and having memories of what it feels like to be back in the country will take one shock away when/if they go to search. We plan to take our internationally adopted children to their home country as well. In an ideal world we will go at least twice - once when they are young (probably 10 and 8) when they can just soak up the culture and make memories of places and again when they are teens and they can if they chose elect to open their files and search for their birth families. Even if we can’t manage the second trip and they go by themselves at a later date, I want them to have memories of thier home country to rely on they make what would be an emotionally laden journey to find their birthfamilies (if they chose to. The journey to find their birthparents must be theirs while we can do whatever they want to help (or not as they elect) I want to do what we can and I hope that by having been in the country and having memories of what it feels like to be back in the country will take one shock away when/if they go to search.

]]> By: elaine http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106333 elaine Sun, 22 Nov 2009 09:11:17 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106333 We just did a brief drop in on Beijing this week. Our 8 next week daughter had a very hard time. We got lots of attention on the streets, many people stopped to stare and speak in Chinese to her, to chew me out for not dressing her warmly enough and to generally horrify the girl. The 4 year old, on the other hand, ate up the attention and learned to work it to get Mom and Dad to carry her everywhere and buy her lots of snacks. Sat down, cried, drew attention and got parent's moving fast often. All of this has caused us to seriously rethink hopes to move there in a few years. We just did a brief drop in on Beijing this week. Our 8 next week daughter had a very hard time. We got lots of attention on the streets, many people stopped to stare and speak in Chinese to her, to chew me out for not dressing her warmly enough and to generally horrify the girl. The 4 year old, on the other hand, ate up the attention and learned to work it to get Mom and Dad to carry her everywhere and buy her lots of snacks. Sat down, cried, drew attention and got parent’s moving fast often. All of this has caused us to seriously rethink hopes to move there in a few years.

]]> By: JaneM http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106252 JaneM Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:29:39 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106252 I am a parent and a grandparent. Said children/grandchildren are U.S. born and bred. It is my dream to take ALL of them to the land of our forfathers and formothers so they can get an idea of where it all started. This is a dream of mine. Why would you NOT want to take Dotter to where she came from??? It is a wonderful thing for you all and I hope you are able to do it. Anyone who can't see the value in that should go suck an egg! To hell what anyone thinks. You are the ones who know your child best and know what is best for all of you. Go for it. When she is a Mom someday she will appreciate what you are doing. Good luck with it I am a parent and a grandparent. Said children/grandchildren are U.S. born and bred. It is my dream to take ALL of them to the land of our forfathers and formothers so they can get an idea of where it all started. This is a dream of mine. Why would you NOT want to take Dotter to where she came from??? It is a wonderful thing for you all and I hope you are able to do it. Anyone who can’t see the value in that should go suck an egg! To hell what anyone thinks. You are the ones who know your child best and know what is best for all of you. Go for it. When she is a Mom someday she will appreciate what you are doing.

Good luck with it

]]> By: Jess http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106241 Jess Fri, 20 Nov 2009 14:05:08 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106241 I'm starting to think about when we're going to take our 7 year-old on a similar sort of trip. Fortunately, I've been saving already for years, but it's still likely going to be another few years, for maturity reasons. We were looking at a globe yesterday, and she suggested that it would take a really long time to get there. Oh, yes. I’m starting to think about when we’re going to take our 7 year-old on a similar sort of trip. Fortunately, I’ve been saving already for years, but it’s still likely going to be another few years, for maturity reasons. We were looking at a globe yesterday, and she suggested that it would take a really long time to get there. Oh, yes.

]]> By: Anne http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106240 Anne Fri, 20 Nov 2009 12:40:23 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106240 I hear you and feel it and could not have said it any better (our daughter is 6). I hear you and feel it and could not have said it any better (our daughter is 6).

]]> By: Kim http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106237 Kim Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:27:14 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2009/11/19/china-trips/#comment-106237 Well said! I particularly like the "suck lemons" point. You stated what's in my head very eloquently =) Well said! I particularly like the “suck lemons” point. You stated what’s in my head very eloquently =)

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