Comments on: Parenting is hard–episode #827,351 http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/ A "good enough" mom muses about alpha moms, adoption, computers, the State Of The World, Internet quirkiness, and the Kosmik All Sat, 11 Oct 2008 01:18:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Julie Pippert http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7427 Julie Pippert Mon, 24 Mar 2008 19:41:50 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7427 Oh. How disappointing. I was hoping for the magic "works for all" technique in your comments, even though I know it's a myth. Sigh. Same problem here, along with some snotty attitude that needs a wagon-fixin. I hear if you just keep plugging away someday their spouse might thank you. Oh. How disappointing. I was hoping for the magic “works for all” technique in your comments, even though I know it’s a myth. Sigh. Same problem here, along with some snotty attitude that needs a wagon-fixin. I hear if you just keep plugging away someday their spouse might thank you.

]]> By: lizard http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7426 lizard Mon, 24 Mar 2008 17:16:42 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7426 being about 6 months behind you in kid-age, I don't know that I have much to offer but sympathy. We have the same problem-- only the breaking reins would have produced sobs of "look what you made me do" and a lecture from me on Personal Responsibility. Fun for all, I assure you. I tend to try different engagement when I get ignored by E or her friends. I ask them to look me in the eye or just look at me, then I say "I have asked nicely. On the count of 3 I will put you on the couch because I am done here" and then I do it. I also respond for her sometimes-- or her friend, especially the one who stares at me agape when I ask anything. I say my thing, get no response, and then I say "yes, Mommy, I will get off your lap, can I have a big hug and kiss first?" and then I give her the big hug and kiss and tell her I love it when she asks for them. She, of course, did not want them-- though sometimes she did and just won't say it, they we are all happy. It works for everything. I ask her to put on her shoes, she does not move, I say "I want help Mommy, and big hugs and kisses" and then I go about doing it, starting with the hugs and kisses. If she doesn't want the hugs and kisses, she had best answer on her own. I don't do the hugs and kisses with her friends, though. being about 6 months behind you in kid-age, I don’t know that I have much to offer but sympathy. We have the same problem– only the breaking reins would have produced sobs of “look what you made me do” and a lecture from me on Personal Responsibility. Fun for all, I assure you.

I tend to try different engagement when I get ignored by E or her friends. I ask them to look me in the eye or just look at me, then I say “I have asked nicely. On the count of 3 I will put you on the couch because I am done here” and then I do it. I also respond for her sometimes– or her friend, especially the one who stares at me agape when I ask anything. I say my thing, get no response, and then I say “yes, Mommy, I will get off your lap, can I have a big hug and kiss first?” and then I give her the big hug and kiss and tell her I love it when she asks for them. She, of course, did not want them– though sometimes she did and just won’t say it, they we are all happy.

It works for everything. I ask her to put on her shoes, she does not move, I say “I want help Mommy, and big hugs and kisses” and then I go about doing it, starting with the hugs and kisses. If she doesn’t want the hugs and kisses, she had best answer on her own.

I don’t do the hugs and kisses with her friends, though.

]]> By: Lauri http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7425 Lauri Mon, 24 Mar 2008 16:50:26 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7425 Frustrating indeed.... Frustrating indeed….

]]> By: lisa http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7424 lisa Mon, 24 Mar 2008 16:14:42 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7424 Well, going with the maybe it's another problem approach...jb frequently doesn't respond to me, drove me crazy for years, still does sometimes. One day he casually said, "you know, I've always had trouble with auditory processing." I can't tell you what a breakthrough this was for me, after assuming for so many years that it was deliberate. I mean, he's a very bright man, and suddenly I remembered, oh yeah, we still all have different abilities. He literally needs to play back in his head a few times to comprehend what was said and what the desired response is. If he caught enough to play back. ~lmc Well, going with the maybe it’s another problem approach…jb frequently doesn’t respond to me, drove me crazy for years, still does sometimes. One day he casually said, “you know, I’ve always had trouble with auditory processing.” I can’t tell you what a breakthrough this was for me, after assuming for so many years that it was deliberate. I mean, he’s a very bright man, and suddenly I remembered, oh yeah, we still all have different abilities. He literally needs to play back in his head a few times to comprehend what was said and what the desired response is. If he caught enough to play back. ~lmc

]]> By: Omega Unk http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7418 Omega Unk Mon, 24 Mar 2008 10:14:51 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/03/23/parenting-is-hard-episode-827351/#comment-7418 Yes, being a parent is both joyous and bloody flusterating (sic). Having tried both PC and SC, there is another effective option. Unk Yes, being a parent is both joyous and bloody flusterating (sic). Having tried both PC and SC, there is another effective option.

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