Comments on: Kaleidoscope http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/ A "good enough" mom muses about alpha moms, adoption, computers, the State Of The World, Internet quirkiness, and the Kosmik All Thu, 24 May 2012 03:43:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Lane http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5859 Lane Thu, 21 Feb 2008 18:02:18 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5859 Thanks for that...from one of the other grandotters. Thanks for that…from one of the other grandotters.

]]> By: pb http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5722 pb Thu, 14 Feb 2008 13:19:56 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5722 It may not feel so much of a loss as a final destination. Much of your grief has already been invested, over the last days, weeks and years of your Grandmother's decline. You will grieve again, once the relief of "having it over with" passes. Be kind to yourself; you deserve it. God bless. It may not feel so much of a loss as a final destination. Much of your grief has already been invested, over the last days, weeks and years of your Grandmother’s decline.

You will grieve again, once the relief of “having it over with” passes. Be kind to yourself; you deserve it. God bless.

]]> By: Vinegar Martinis http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5710 Vinegar Martinis Tue, 12 Feb 2008 20:04:59 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5710 It's not so much a 'loss' but it is a void and it still hurts. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. It’s not so much a ‘loss’ but it is a void and it still hurts. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

]]> By: carosgram http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5698 carosgram Mon, 11 Feb 2008 21:09:51 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5698 I understand what you mean. When my grandfather passed away at 95 I knew it was for the best. All of his siblings were gone and he was the eldest of 7. His friends had died, my grandmother 20 years ago. He no longer could see (macular degeneration) and he was bedridden after pneumonia 2 years before. He used to pray that God would take him. For him it was good and I didn't grieve like I had for my father. But I still miss him, his advice and counsel. I miss his stories of what life was like when he was growing up. I miss walking around the cemetery with him as he told me about my relatives long past. I missed the shared history we had and the safe haven of love he represented. I can smile when I think about him but I wouldn't mind if I could still drop by to see him once in a while. I understand what you mean. When my grandfather passed away at 95 I knew it was for the best. All of his siblings were gone and he was the eldest of 7. His friends had died, my grandmother 20 years ago. He no longer could see (macular degeneration) and he was bedridden after pneumonia 2 years before. He used to pray that God would take him. For him it was good and I didn’t grieve like I had for my father. But I still miss him, his advice and counsel. I miss his stories of what life was like when he was growing up. I miss walking around the cemetery with him as he told me about my relatives long past. I missed the shared history we had and the safe haven of love he represented. I can smile when I think about him but I wouldn’t mind if I could still drop by to see him once in a while.

]]> By: Lauri http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5694 Lauri Mon, 11 Feb 2008 16:08:59 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5694 Sending hugs your way... what a beautiful post Sending hugs your way… what a beautiful post

]]> By: Julie Pippert http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5691 Julie Pippert Mon, 11 Feb 2008 15:40:17 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5691 Still, a (hug). Transitioning is hard. Still, a (hug). Transitioning is hard.

]]> By: Omega Unk http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5685 Omega Unk Mon, 11 Feb 2008 09:36:59 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5685 Well and succinctly put. Unk Well and succinctly put.

Unk

]]> By: lizard http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5679 lizard Mon, 11 Feb 2008 06:01:07 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5679 it is so difficult, all of it. I really feel for your mother, who of course could well live another 20 years (I sure hope so) but has that sense of being Eldest there, no matter. Of course, it will sink in. May she develop her sense of humor about it, learning to lord it over the rest of you, since she is in fact Eldest and thus deserving of even more respect. Dammit. I often think of how hard it is when someone dies while you are far away. When they are not part of your daily life, even the every now and then thoughts of telling them something are jarring, as you remember again that they are not there. It isn't worse than when you are close by, of course, but it is different. I wish you all peace. You are well on your way, for sure, becasue you know that Margeurite is at peace. it is so difficult, all of it. I really feel for your mother, who of course could well live another 20 years (I sure hope so) but has that sense of being Eldest there, no matter. Of course, it will sink in. May she develop her sense of humor about it, learning to lord it over the rest of you, since she is in fact Eldest and thus deserving of even more respect. Dammit.

I often think of how hard it is when someone dies while you are far away. When they are not part of your daily life, even the every now and then thoughts of telling them something are jarring, as you remember again that they are not there. It isn’t worse than when you are close by, of course, but it is different.

I wish you all peace. You are well on your way, for sure, becasue you know that Margeurite is at peace.

]]> By: Blog Antatonist http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5677 Blog Antatonist Mon, 11 Feb 2008 01:29:31 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2008/02/10/kaleidoscope/#comment-5677 I understand exactly what you mean. My grandmother died of complications of Alzheimer's disease. She suffered with it a very long time before she died and when finally she passed away, she was something almost less than human. She would have hated to see herself that way. So though of course there was sadness, we were all very relieved that her suffering was over. You are lucky to have had your grandmother for so long. And from the posts I've read about her, she was an amazing woman. I understand exactly what you mean. My grandmother died of complications of Alzheimer’s disease. She suffered with it a very long time before she died and when finally she passed away, she was something almost less than human. She would have hated to see herself that way. So though of course there was sadness, we were all very relieved that her suffering was over.

You are lucky to have had your grandmother for so long. And from the posts I’ve read about her, she was an amazing woman.

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