Comments on: Blogging Tip #5328 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/ A "good enough" mom muses about alpha moms, adoption, computers, the State Of The World, Internet quirkiness, and the Kosmik All Fri, 21 Nov 2008 17:51:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: atomic mama http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/#comment-1763 atomic mama Sat, 14 Apr 2007 17:55:51 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/#comment-1763 Thanks for sharing your insight. This has been an interesting conversation and I think - I hope - helpful for many people. I would just like to comment on SBird's statements. The idea of turning the tables on the expected process by reversing it would be, as you say, an interesting "intellectual exercise" for many people. But it is not theoretical. I find myself and know of others in nearly that situation, i.e., if the adoption does not work out, then we might be forced to see if we could get pregnant. That would be our "second choice" option, and I would have to struggle through some issues of "settling" for a biological child... Thanks for sharing your insight. This has been an interesting conversation and I think - I hope - helpful for many people. I would just like to comment on SBird’s statements. The idea of turning the tables on the expected process by reversing it would be, as you say, an interesting “intellectual exercise” for many people. But it is not theoretical. I find myself and know of others in nearly that situation, i.e., if the adoption does not work out, then we might be forced to see if we could get pregnant. That would be our “second choice” option, and I would have to struggle through some issues of “settling” for a biological child…

]]> By: Trace http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/#comment-1762 Trace Sat, 14 Apr 2007 12:48:44 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/#comment-1762 I found your blog through Beagle who mentioned that she was very touched by your post. I am for homestudies also and YES I understand the need for them. If I was going to play devils advocate I would mention what happened to us. We were selected by an expectant mother and backed out of the match. We learned 6 months later that she was a scam artist and that the baby was born addicted to drugs. When I learned that, I was furious about the home study because I felt like we had gotten our whole life examined and she just checked off "no I don't do drugs" on a form. Is it just life an it's equalities that allow warm, loving, happy couples be totally infertile and others to be Fertile-Murtle? Yup. It is what it is... Before hopping over to your blog I gave the "second best" idea more thought. I had NEVER considered adoption second best. When we got married I knew that my dh might be infertile and that adoption was a possibility. So when we learned that he was infertile I just thought that I was forming my family in a different way than my friends. Not once did I think it was second best and in a way that idea offends me. It's like saying an adopted child isn't as good or worthy as a biological child. Well, my genes aren't that great, LOL. I found your blog through Beagle who mentioned that she was very touched by your post. I am for homestudies also and YES I understand the need for them. If I was going to play devils advocate I would mention what happened to us. We were selected by an expectant mother and backed out of the match. We learned 6 months later that she was a scam artist and that the baby was born addicted to drugs. When I learned that, I was furious about the home study because I felt like we had gotten our whole life examined and she just checked off “no I don’t do drugs” on a form. Is it just life an it’s equalities that allow warm, loving, happy couples be totally infertile and others to be Fertile-Murtle? Yup. It is what it is…

Before hopping over to your blog I gave the “second best” idea more thought. I had NEVER considered adoption second best. When we got married I knew that my dh might be infertile and that adoption was a possibility. So when we learned that he was infertile I just thought that I was forming my family in a different way than my friends. Not once did I think it was second best and in a way that idea offends me. It’s like saying an adopted child isn’t as good or worthy as a biological child. Well, my genes aren’t that great, LOL.

]]> By: Dirk http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/#comment-1760 Dirk Sat, 14 Apr 2007 03:58:12 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/13/blogging-tip-5328/#comment-1760 Ok, can I officially vote for you as QotW? I am so for homestudies for everyone, I can't even begin to tell you... As for traffic - I haven't even posted on the issue, just commented on some of the blogs and my stats more or less doubled as well... no one is clicking on the ads, but that's a different story :-) Ok, can I officially vote for you as QotW? I am so for homestudies for everyone, I can’t even begin to tell you…

As for traffic - I haven’t even posted on the issue, just commented on some of the blogs and my stats more or less doubled as well… no one is clicking on the ads, but that’s a different story :-)

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