Comments on: The wait sucks http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/ A "good enough" mom muses about alpha moms, adoption, computers, the State Of The World, Internet quirkiness, and the Kosmik All Fri, 21 Nov 2008 16:23:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: omegamom http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1729 omegamom Tue, 10 Apr 2007 02:21:32 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1729 Figlet--I think I'm just cold-blooded about some things...but the original comment that I was discussing really yanked my chain, much more than the commentary over at Julie's. Jen--Welcome aboard! Dirk--It was a different post, but the particular comment distilled a whole bunch of misconceptions into one Reader's Digest of adoption prejudice. Very interesting. Theresa--Oh, yeah. I think the "how will I love second child as much as I love first child?" question is fairly common to parents, whether they are parents via adoption or biology. PunditMom--Well, I can see I'm going to have to wander to the local library to get this book. That way I can read it to see whether it'll make me froth at the mouth without paying for it! ;-) Figlet–I think I’m just cold-blooded about some things…but the original comment that I was discussing really yanked my chain, much more than the commentary over at Julie’s.

Jen–Welcome aboard!

Dirk–It was a different post, but the particular comment distilled a whole bunch of misconceptions into one Reader’s Digest of adoption prejudice. Very interesting.

Theresa–Oh, yeah. I think the “how will I love second child as much as I love first child?” question is fairly common to parents, whether they are parents via adoption or biology.

PunditMom–Well, I can see I’m going to have to wander to the local library to get this book. That way I can read it to see whether it’ll make me froth at the mouth without paying for it! ;-)

]]> By: PunditMom http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1726 PunditMom Mon, 09 Apr 2007 17:55:07 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1726 Oh, don't get me started on Rebecca Walker. At her blog, she's trying to backtrack her comments as if she only meant to write about how SHE felt. I don't buy it. She's written books before, so if that's what she really meant to say, that's what she would have written. I think she knew what kind of uproar (read: free publicity) she would get. Oh, don’t get me started on Rebecca Walker. At her blog, she’s trying to backtrack her comments
as if she only meant to write about how SHE felt. I don’t buy it. She’s written books before, so
if that’s what she really meant to say, that’s what she would have written. I think she knew what kind
of uproar (read: free publicity) she would get.

]]> By: Theresa http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1720 Theresa Sun, 08 Apr 2007 00:10:18 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1720 These kind of comments seem so strange to me. I've been pg twice since we returned from China with dd 4 years ago and both times my early reaction was "How am I ever going to love this child as much as I love dd?" Turned out to be a moot point since I lost both pregnancies. As for your earlier post I will forever have burned into my memory the first night with her in China when she was sobbing and reaching out to dh for a hug and then to me for a hug until we all ended up in a family hug. That moment we became a family and the coolest thing about adopting was our focus was totally on dd-unlike in a birth where so much of the focus is on the mother and the dad is sort of left off to the side. In China dh and I were a team and together we helped dd make the transition from grieving over her foster mama. Some people will never get it but that is their loss. These kind of comments seem so strange to me. I’ve been pg twice since we returned from China with dd 4 years ago and both times my early reaction was “How am I ever going to love this child as much as I love dd?” Turned out to be a moot point since I lost both pregnancies.

As for your earlier post I will forever have burned into my memory the first night with her in China when she was sobbing and reaching out to dh for a hug and then to me for a hug until we all ended up in a family hug. That moment we became a family and the coolest thing about adopting was our focus was totally on dd-unlike in a birth where so much of the focus is on the mother and the dad is sort of left off to the side.

In China dh and I were a team and together we helped dd make the transition from grieving over her foster mama.

Some people will never get it but that is their loss.

]]> By: Dirk http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1719 Dirk Sat, 07 Apr 2007 20:50:44 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1719 I read it, coming from one of the blogs that do link to it. Weird, stupid and most of all a clear indication of the lacking of the authors understanding and (for that matter) empathy. I wish I could put my thoughts as well as you and a few others already did and I'd post a "response" on my blog. Instead I am just commenting on different blogs sharing my frustration about people who just don't get it and insult us with their words. Oh well. I read it, coming from one of the blogs that do link to it.

Weird, stupid and most of all a clear indication of the lacking of the authors understanding and (for that matter) empathy.

I wish I could put my thoughts as well as you and a few others already did and I’d post a “response” on my blog. Instead I am just commenting on different blogs sharing my frustration about people who just don’t get it and insult us with their words. Oh well.

]]> By: Jen http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1718 Jen Sat, 07 Apr 2007 20:07:55 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1718 I am not going to link to it either-- but holy MOLY, what a thing to wake up to on a Saturday morning! I am not going to link to it either– but holy MOLY, what a thing to wake up to on a Saturday morning!

]]> By: figlet http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1717 figlet Sat, 07 Apr 2007 19:57:53 +0000 http://omegamom.com/2007/04/07/the-wait-sucks/#comment-1717 I want to be the kind of blogger/mother who can read that stuff and, well, at least respond rationally. Interesting point about RW, though when I read her book I still felt she was claiming the I as a more universal sort of "I", hiding behind it, if you will, in case she got called on it which she did. The other drivel.... Who ARE these people? These sycophants and strivers. Loathsome. All of it. And the wait. Loathsome. I am feeling really sad for several friends right now. I want to be the kind of blogger/mother who can read that stuff and, well, at least respond rationally.
Interesting point about RW, though when I read her book I still felt she was claiming the I as a more
universal sort of “I”, hiding behind it, if you will, in case she got called on it which she did.

The other drivel….

Who ARE these people? These sycophants and strivers.

Loathsome. All of it.

And the wait. Loathsome. I am feeling really sad for several friends right now.

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