Comments on: Contrary magic

By: OmegaMom

OmegaMom — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 02:42:34 +0000

[...] The bathroom. For most people, but not for me. As I’ve mentioned before, when I go in to take my morning shower, the dotter invariably soon comes in needing to use the toilet. [...]

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 12 Mar 2007 19:41:00 +0000

Lizard–I think the thing is to just be open and ready to listen and talk. Some of what the adult adoptees have said has sunk in for me; the “brown skin” conversation the previous day, I remembered that one of the thing that AAs have said is that they felt dismissed when their parents ignored it or brushed it off…So I did my best to be sure I asked her how it made her feel, and sympathized. The bmom conversation is, as you say, an ongoing thing.

SBird–Yes, a rain date…born and bred in the Midwest, I can’t get “rain dates” out of my head!

SpaceMom–Har, yes, a sense of humor the universe definitely has!

Miss C.–The more it happens, the easier it gets. And that’s what I’m hoping for: honest, open discussions about all those sorts of things.

AE–It’s great fun taking her out in the woods & rivers!

By: The Animation Empire

The Animation Empire — Mon, 12 Mar 2007 16:42:00 +0000

That’s great! Last week I took my toddler daughter out on our first adventure in the woods. I let her down on the different terrain so that she could experience it. You’ve got to take advantage of any clear weather that you get!

Check out our Daddy Magic list of blog posts about playing with toddlers: http://daddymagic.blogspot.com/search/label/5.%20Toddlers%20-%20Playing

By: Miss Cellania

Miss Cellania — Sun, 11 Mar 2007 21:15:00 +0000

She’s at “that age” (yours too, Lizard). You’ll be answering questions over and over and over for the next three or four years. After that, she’ll “have it” (its a series of “getting it”). Then you’ll just have normal, almost-adult discussions of adoption and racial issues. If she’s anything like my kids, which seems typical of this situation.

By: Space Mom

Space Mom — Sat, 10 Mar 2007 19:32:00 +0000

More proof for the existence of the Karma that ran over the Dogma, a Kosmic sense of Humor!

By: SBird

SBird — Sat, 10 Mar 2007 12:07:00 +0000

Gotta love when the universe catches up to you…seems to never fail! Egads.

But a rain date??!! Pshaw.

By: Lizard

Lizard — Fri, 09 Mar 2007 23:19:00 +0000

we have been having the same sort of discussion of late. Bedtime usually, for us. We talk about being a baby, what she was like as a baby, she likes to tell *us* what she was like (repeating the stories we have told her)… then she’ll tell me about babies in tummies…. and about being in my tummy. I give a gentle correction, and then we talk about the Chinese lady’s tummy. Sometimes she argues for a while (not shocking– she also likes to argue about losing teeth, as in “other people lose their teeth, but I will not” no matter what the dentist and Mommy say to the contrary) sometimes she just moves on to something more interesting ot her, something about what she was like as a baby again.

It never fails to stop my heart for a second, as I race to think of the right thing to say, to not cause damage or trouble. Never fails.